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Thursday, May 28, 2015

Using Author Pen Names on Facebook - and Getting Locked Out!

Boy do I have a story to tell - and fortunately, the solution that finally worked to get my Facebook access back after they locked my access to both my profile and Page due to my not using my "real name." 

(Shoshanna Evers has been my pen name since 2009, which makes it legally my real name in 46 states just by the fact that I use it everywhere - and I have an Idaho-state DBA (doing business as) Shoshanna Evers).

Backstory: 
I had a Shoshanna Evers profile from 2010 that was converted into a "Like Page" when I couldn't add more friends. For a couple years I just had that Page, and no profile attached.

Then, FB made me create a profile to attach to the Page. So I created a Shoshanna Evers profile. I hid the profile in searches so only my Like Page would come up (I don't want to have to double post in two places on FB), I didn't add any friends to it, and only used it to interact in my Street Team FB Group and during FB events like book release parties.

Separately, I have a private FB profile under my married name where I post pics of my kid, etc, for the relatives. That profile is hidden and there are no cross-over friends.

Here's what happened:
On May 21st 2015 (as I write this is the 28th, and the problem just got resolved a few hours ago), I participated in a FB party using my Shoshanna Evers profile. I've done that before. This time, I decided to message the 4 winners to make sure they knew to email me for their prizes. BAD MOVE!! That flagged FB, because I was messaging people who weren't my "friends."

So don't ever message someone who isn't a "friend" from your profile, because that will get you flagged! Good to know, right? Fortunately I have made all the mistakes this week so you don't have to! ;)

The next day when I went to log in, I got a message saying my account access has been locked until I "verify my identity."

Silly me, at first I was happy. Yay, they're going to give me a blue check mark just like Twitter did, right? NOPE. I sent them what I had sent Twitter - a pic of a contract that showed I was (legal/birth name) writing as Shoshanna Evers along with my driver's license showing I am my legal name.

Denied. So I end up going back and forth, sending a total of eleven documents (including my Idaho DBA, a royalty statement, a screen shot of my access into my own official website, a screen shot of a Tweet to FB from my Verified Twitter account, etc) all verifying that I am really Shoshanna Evers, and that it's really me running the profile and Page - unlike, for example, the Shoshanna Evers page that I *don't* run, which I also linked to.

Every step of the way, a new person contacted me to tell me no. It took me a very long time to realize that no one was actually looking at my past emails or documents - each time they denied me and said I have to verify my legal name is Shoshanna Evers.

I quoted their own help site stating that it has to be your "authentic name" - not LEGAL name - but the name you are known as in real life and online - if you've ever met me, you know I introduce myself as Shoshanna Evers. I reminded them that since October of 2014 their "legal name" policy changed to "authentic name" because they had a lot of backlash from drag queens who were forced to out themselves using their legal male names.

No one listened. No one cared. It was like encountering a steady stream of brick walls, each one entirely new and with no knowledge of all the links and pics I'd sent.

Then, some jerk at FB closed my support ticket (and I'm thinking, "hey, we're not done here!") and worst of all, changed my Shoshanna Evers profile name to my married name. I couldn't even get into my account to deactivate it! He totally doxed me and put my married, private name out to all the FB groups I am a part of. I got a screen shot and a confused email from another author asking why my name had changed, but she couldn't click it because the profile was gone. Fun, right?

Here's how I finally fixed the problem:

  • I reopened the case.
  • I recognized I would need to send them ONE image that contained:
    • 1. a screenshot of their own help page stating what forms of ID are acceptable
    • 2. Circled the forms of ID I was giving them (two from Option 2)
    • 3. The forms of ID on that same image, right there, with the circled form of ID pasted above each one. (I used the free program Paint and used "Paste From" to add the pics I needed, in case you aren't sure how to make several images into one easily)

In other words, I made it impossible for anyone looking at that one image to deny me access. And I got it back. *throws confetti*

What forms of ID did I use?
An employee identification card - fortunately, as CEO of my company, I issued an immediate directive that all four employees could have ID cards on request, and I requested one. Ta da! 

The other was membership in a professional organization - RWA. I am attaching the image I sent them so you can see what finally worked. And since I doubt I am the first or last author this is going to happen to, I am blogging about this as well. When I was searching online to find out how to fix the problem, all I found were people who were flagged for using their actual legal names because their legal names sounded "fake" to someone at Facebook. *rolls eyes*

Hope that helps you - oh, and another form of ID you can get now in case you have a problem in the future is to save mail sent to your pen name and take a pic of it.

Best,
Shoshanna, who is glad to be back on Facebook!



Saturday, May 16, 2015

Complication Cards Part 3 - guest post by Ines Johnson

Complication Cards - PART THREE: THE SCENE
Read Part One, and Part Two.

Guest Post by author Ines Johnson

You’ve discovered your character’s need, and potential their want, which is a false goal. You’ve learned about the four types of obstacles that can obstruct your character on the way to achieving their goals and filling their need. Now, to build a heart-pounding story where you send your character through the toughest obstacle course you can imagine, you should map out a blueprint for the course.

4 Elements of a Story
1.     HERO/HEROINE
Primary character looking to fill the void in their life.
2.     WANT
A false goal that the hero/heroine initially believes is their path to wholeness.
3.     OBSTACLE
One of the four obstacles opposing the hero/heroine.
4.     NEED
The true goal of the hero/heroine which will satisfy their void.

OBSTACLE COURSE CARD

EXAMPLES
Antagonist example
In the Cinderella adaptation Ever After, Danielle (heroine) works tirelessly to gain acceptance (want) from her stepmother (antagonist) until she realizes her family of friends, including the Prince, love her unconditionally (need).

Physical example
In The Little Mermaid adaptation Splash, yes I went there!, Madison (heroine) leaves the sea to be with Allen (want) but when her legs get wet and her fins come back (obstacle) she’s forced to tell Allen the truth of her existence in the hopes that he’ll come and spend forever with her under the sea (need).

Inner/Psychological example
In the unconventional fairy tale Shrek, Princess Fiona (heroine) hopes to be rescued by a knight in shining armor (want) who will break her curse (obstacle) until she realizes that true love is “color” blind (need).

Mystic Forces example
In The Frog Prince, Tiana (heroine) dreams of opening a restaurant (want) but her dream takes a slight detour when she’s turned into a frog (obstacle) along with Prince Naveen and learns to seek and take help from others (need).

Exercise
Now its your turn. Fill out your own obstacle card for you story. If you want to take it a step farther, fill out a card for each scene!



Check out Ines Johnson's new release: The Loyal Steed (a Pleasure Hound Novel)
Available on Amazon

Trained as a Pleasure Hound and now surviving by selling his body to rich women, Jaspir’s heart has always remained loyal to Lady Merlyn. When Merlyn’s fiance, Liam, approaches Jaspir for help in ensuring her happiness in the bedroom, Jaspir agrees to train Liam in the pleasure arts. What starts as rivals in an uneasy truce, soon turns carnal when Merlyn learns of their secret lessons and iis torn between the attentions of two men who would do anything to rule her heart.

About Ines Johnson:
Ines writes books for strong women who suck at love. If you rocked out to the twisted triangle of Jem, Jericha, and Rio as a girl; if you were slayed by vampires with souls alongside Buffy; if you need your scandalous fix from Olivia Pope each week, then you’ll love her books!
Aside from being a writer, professional reader, and teacher, Ines is a very bad Buddhist. She sits in sangha each week, and while others are meditating and getting their zen on, she’s contemplating how to use the teachings to strengthen her plots and character motivations.
Ines lives outside Washington, DC with her two little sidekicks who are growing up way too fast.

Friday, May 15, 2015

Complication Cards Part 2: Guest Post by Ines Johnson

Complication Cards PART TWO: THE OBSTACLE COURSE

Guest Post by author Ines Johnson
Read Part 1 here.

Last week Yesterday we learned that characters have holes that only ‘needs’ can fill. Before a character can see their need, they have to yearn after a want, which takes them on a bumpy ride to nowhere.

This obstacle course consists of four physical and/or internal complications that force the hero or heroine to make decisions that produce dramatic action.
The four kinds of obstacles are:

The Antagonist (Bad Guy)
A specific antagonist lends clarity and power to the dramatic structure because his primary function is to oppose the protagonist. He doesn’t necessarily have to be evil, but he should personify the protagonist’s obstacles.
Example: Cinderella’s Wicked Step Mother

Physical Obstructions
Physical obstructions are just what they seem –material barriers standing in the way of the protagonist. These can be rivers, deserts, mountains, a dead-end street, or a car causing a crash –anything that presents a substantial obstacle for the protagonist.
Example: Arielle’s fin

Inner/Psychological Problems
Inner obstacles are intellectual, emotional, or psychological problems the protagonist must overcome before being able to achieve his goal. For example, dealing with fear, pride, jealousy, or the need to mature fall into this category.
Example: Fiona’s (from Shrek) appearance

Mystic Forces
Mystic forces enter most stories as accidents or chance but they can be expressed as moral choices or ethical codes, which present obstacles. They can also be personified as gods or supernatural forces, which the characters have to content with.
Example: Tiana’s (from The Frog Prince) magical transformation into a frog

Exercise
Which of these obstacles will your character face? Will they face more than one type of obstacle during the course of the story?


Next week Tomorrow, we’ll put it all together -the character, need, and obstacle- into a scene card.

Check out Ines Johnson's new release: The Loyal Steed (a Pleasure Hound Novel)
Available on Amazon

Trained as a Pleasure Hound and now surviving by selling his body to rich women, Jaspir’s heart has always remained loyal to Lady Merlyn. When Merlyn’s fiance, Liam, approaches Jaspir for help in ensuring her happiness in the bedroom, Jaspir agrees to train Liam in the pleasure arts. What starts as rivals in an uneasy truce, soon turns carnal when Merlyn learns of their secret lessons and iis torn between the attentions of two men who would do anything to rule her heart.

About Ines Johnson:
Ines writes books for strong women who suck at love. If you rocked out to the twisted triangle of Jem, Jericha, and Rio as a girl; if you were slayed by vampires with souls alongside Buffy; if you need your scandalous fix from Olivia Pope each week, then you’ll love her books!
Aside from being a writer, professional reader, and teacher, Ines is a very bad Buddhist. She sits in sangha each week, and while others are meditating and getting their zen on, she’s contemplating how to use the teachings to strengthen her plots and character motivations.
Ines lives outside Washington, DC with her two little sidekicks who are growing up way too fast.

Thursday, May 14, 2015

Complication Cards - Guest Post by Ines Johnson

Complication Cards

Guest post by author Ines Johnson

PART ONE: THE "HOLE" CHARACTER
All characters have holes (notice it rhymes with goal). You open the first chapter and find a human being who believes they are lacking something crucial in their lives. Perhaps it’s the dream job, or the right social circle, or their mother’s approval, or maybe its love.

Rarely do you enter the world of a character who finds themselves whole. A part is usually missing. For the next tens of thousands of words you will embark upon a journey with that character to fill that void.

Characters fill these holes in one of two ways; with either a want or need.

Remember when you were young and you wanted the fancy pair of jeans? Think Brenda in 90210. Fresh from the Midwest, thrown into the dangerous waters of the Beverly Hills elite, and her working class parents couldn’t afford the patchwork, ripped jeans that cost the same as a car payment. But Brenda wanted those holey jeans so that she could fit in with Kelly and Donna. In Carol’s, her mother’s eyes, there was a need for a new pair of pants for Brenda to wear to school and that’s what Brenda got. Now if we watched that 20-year old episode we know what Brenda did to those new pair of jeans and she made holes in her jeans to fill her social void.

You might want a pair of Louis Vuitton, but in the end you need a pair of functioning heels to go with that cute dress.

A want is a false goal, a red herring that throws both the reader and the character off the true course that will fill the character’s hole. It takes some time and some bumps in the road before the character realizes their want is not likely what they need. The need perfectly fills the void the character has been experiencing.

Exercise
Take a look at your main character(s). What is it that they need in order to be whole again? Now consider if it would serve your story for your character to have a false goal that keeps them from seeing their true need for a good portion of the story?

Next week Tomorrow(!), you’ll learn the four types of obstacles that a character might face during their course of their quest for their ‘need.’

Check out Ines Johnson's new release: The Loyal Steed (a Pleasure Hound Novel)
Available on Amazon

Trained as a Pleasure Hound and now surviving by selling his body to rich women, Jaspir’s heart has always remained loyal to Lady Merlyn. When Merlyn’s fiance, Liam, approaches Jaspir for help in ensuring her happiness in the bedroom, Jaspir agrees to train Liam in the pleasure arts. What starts as rivals in an uneasy truce, soon turns carnal when Merlyn learns of their secret lessons and iis torn between the attentions of two men who would do anything to rule her heart.

About Ines Johnson:
Ines writes books for strong women who suck at love. If you rocked out to the twisted triangle of Jem, Jericha, and Rio as a girl; if you were slayed by vampires with souls alongside Buffy; if you need your scandalous fix from Olivia Pope each week, then you’ll love her books!
Aside from being a writer, professional reader, and teacher, Ines is a very bad Buddhist. She sits in sangha each week, and while others are meditating and getting their zen on, she’s contemplating how to use the teachings to strengthen her plots and character motivations.
Ines lives outside Washington, DC with her two little sidekicks who are growing up way too fast.

Wednesday, April 1, 2015

April Fools Day Surprise Comedy Release! And GIVEAWAY!

Gay Dinosaur Billionaire Adventures with Bigfoot and Friends!

Releases TODAY for April Fools Day! (for real though)
LIMITED TIME ONLY

"My favourite read in March was Gay Dinosaur Billionaire Adventures with Bigfoot and Friends! Written by Shoshanna Evers, Charlotte SteinAudra North, and others under assumed names, this anthology was so funny I may have temporarily lost bladder control. The perfect April Fool's Day read."
~  Rhyll Biest, Heroes & Heartbreakers

 Gay Dinosaur Billionaire Adventures with Bigfoot by Jezebel Lixxx 


  •  “When award-winning and New York Times bestselling romance authors get together to try their hand at dinosaur erotica, things get a bit crazy. Crazy HOT!”
    New York TimesUSA Today bestselling author Shoshanna Evers (Bunking with the Cowboys Series) 
  •  “Is this an April Fool’s Day joke?”
    New York Times & USA Today bestselling author Andrew Shaffer (How to Survive a Sharknado) 
  • “Who says satire can’t be sexy, #amirite?” ~ people on Twitter 
  • “#Dinoporn is totally a thing. #help”~ other people on Twitter 


  Includes the following short stories for readers with a sense of (ahem) adventure.
*Gay Dinosaur Billionaire Adventures*, that is!

T-Rex Wants Bigfoot’s Gay Billionaire Boyfriend by (a NY Times & USA Today bestselling romance author hiding behind the pen name) Jezebel Lixxx

Captive in the Raptor’s Dungeon by (a NY Times & USA Today bestselling humor author pretending to be) Nikolas Sparx

Raptor Gang Bang by (a critically acclaimed multipublished romance author, writing as) Foofla La Pluge

The Billionaire Playboy Superhero Raptor’s Unexpected Lover by (an award-winning romance author whose books you see on store shelves, writing as) Arabella Snark

Oviraptor, My Love by (a five-star mainstream romance author, writing as) Crystal Lattis

Available for a Limited Time at Amazon, Amazon UK, B&N, Kobo

GIVEAWAY!

Starts April Fools Day & goes all month, with options to do each day to earn points!
There will be SIX Winners!! PRIZES INCLUDE:
TWO Winners will get Amazon or B&N Giftcards! GRAND PRIZE is $50, 2nd place is $25!AmazonGC image 1 Winner will get a "Velociraptor Tooth" Necklace from Nikolas Sparx!AndrewToothNecklace
1 Winner will get all the ebooks in Audra North's Stanton Family series!AudraNorth_Stantonprize
1 Winner will get Delphine Dryden's Love with a Chance of Zombies ebook!LoveWithaChanceofZombiesSmall 1 Winner will get ebook of Enslaved, Bk 1 Enslaved Trilogy from Shoshanna Evers!Enslaved_200x300

Wait a minute… who is Jezebel Lixxx?

Jezebel Lixxx is the secret pen name for New York Times and USA Today bestselling romance author Shoshanna Evers (shhhh don’t tell). Jezebel write crazy-pants erotica, and really doesn’t care if her characters get a happily ever after, as long as they get each other off! She lives in a padded cell in the far corner of Shoshanna’s imagination, where she only comes out if she smells salted chocolate. You can’t even follow her on social media… but sometimes she Tweets for her boss. Author Jezebel Lixxx
  Are you ready? 
FYI: The April Fools Day joke is that we’re writing this silly book under silly pen names – it’s not that the book doesn’t actually exist.
Yes it’s a real book. It’s happening, y’all!

Wait!! Tell me who the real authors are!

Okay. All but one, who insists on anonymity, even though I think you can figure it out.
I hope you enjoy this fun April Fools Day surprise! :D We had a blast brainstorming on Twitter and writing these stories for our readers!
Gay Dinosaur Billionaire: Amazon, Amazon UK, B&N, Kobo

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

DIY Blog Tours

Thank you to author Ines Johnson for this guest post! Ines writes erotic, paranormal and fairytales romance novels. Her new release is Pumpkin: a Cindermama Story.

DIY Blog Tours by Ines Johnson

Author Ines Johnson
If You Publish It, They Will Come

That may have been true ten, five years ago in indie publishing. It is no longer the case today. Readers have a lot of authors and books to choose from. They don’t know you, so you have to do something to get their attention.

Okay, but what something? After visiting Google, I decided to do my own blog tour. I went to listservs and chat rooms for authors and asked questions. Established authors said a blog tour was a waste of time. But new and indie authors said to go for it. I had nothing to lose, and no money to spend, so I did it myself. Here’s how I did it.


1. Build a MEDIA KIT

Honestly, this wasn’t the first thing I did. I realized I needed it as responses started rolling in with bloggers requesting the same materials over and again. But I recommend it be the first thing you do.


A media kit is everything a blogger could possibly want or need in order to host you on their webpage. Include in your Media Kit the following:

  1. Your book blurb. I included different lengths of my blurb, including the full blurb that’s up on Amazon. A shorter three sentence blurb. And a one sentence blurb. My debut book was erotic romance, so I also had to be sure and include a PG version of my blurb for bloggers who also showcased YA books.
  2. Book excerpts. Choose one to two scenes that you feel would get readers engaged in your story. I recommend the excerpt should start somewhere in the middle of the scene and end before the scene is over at a high point of tension. If you choose well, this tactic would naturally lead a reader to push the ‘buy now’ link so they can find out what happens next. Again, make sure you have a PG excerpt for bloggers who showcase YA books.
  3. Guest Posts. I wrote three guests posts for my tour. I found that bloggers liked craft pieces, writing tips, and social commentary. So, I wrote one of each. I also found that some bloggers wanted you to answer their list of questions instead of using your posts. I complied, and then saved each question and answer. I included these Q&A’s in my media kit and made them available to all subsequent bloggers.
  4. Author biography. Be sure to include the bio you’ve written for yourself and posted on your website. I found that some bloggers preferred a one sentence bio, called a tagline. So, I paired my long bio down and included two options in my kit.
  5. Links. Be sure to include your store purchase links, your website url, and all social media links and handles. In my ebook, I have fancy graphic links. I assumed the bloggers would do something graphical with my link, but few did. Instead they just left the entire URL up under my name. I didn’t like that, but I had to realize that many of these bloggers weren’t graphic artists or any more tech savvy than your average person. Moving forward, I’ll need to think of a better way to list these links.

    (***Hint from Shoshanna Evers - make bitly links that look nice & short - see the links at the bottom of the page here for an example.***)
  6. Images. Attach images separately, as well as in the body of the kit. If you have a lot of images, make them available upon request.
That was a lot of information, but I suggest you get started on that before contacting bloggers. Many get back to you straight away and begin making requests.

2. Find BLOGGERS

Once your media kit is assembled, you need to start finding blogs to host your amazing information.

I began my search at the Book Blogger Directory: https://bookbloggerdirectory.wordpress.com/

I made certain to check for bloggers who were in my genre.

I also checked their sites to see when their last activity happened. You don’t want to spend time querying a blogger whose last post was in 2013.

3. Make CONTACT

Once I had my list of vetted bloggers in my genre, I began to contact them. Be aware that some of these bloggers have handy Google Docs. They’d prefer you use these instead of emailing them directly.

For those I emailed directly, I made a form email, but I sent each blogger an individual email with their name in the salutation. I also tailored the form email to each blogger where possible. For example, if I saw that a blogger was only interested in author interviews, I didn’t mention that I had blog posts and excerpts because I knew they wouldn’t be interested in those items.

Here’s an example of the basic form email that I sent out:

Dear [Book Blogger],

I write erotic romance, paranormal romance, and fairytale retellings under the pen name, Ines Johnson. My newest release, Pumpkin: a Cindermama story, which is a fairytale retelling of the Cinderella story will hit the print and virtual shelves on March 17th.

I’ve planned a book tour throughout the month of March to create some buzz and garner a bigger audience for my book. I’d love to make a stop at your site. I’m happy to do a Q&A, a blog posting, submit my book for your review, or any combination of the three. I’ve prepared three posts for the occasion. If you feel that one of the topics might interest your readers, I would be happy to make it available to you any day during the month of March and April. Attached you’ll find my Media Kit for your convenience.

4. Keep RECORDS

It looks bad to contact the same person over and again. Or to forget that you agreed to give this blogger that post on this day. I kept a spreadsheet in Google Docs so that I had access to it at all times.

On the list I listed the blog title, the blog URL, the contact person’s name and email address. In other columns, I placed what each blog looked for from guest bloggers, when I contacted them, if they responded, if they said yes and what they wanted, when the post would be live, and when they needed the information by. You should also note if they want exclusive content, and if they want you to provide them a giveaway.


BLOG NAME
BLOG ADDRESS
CONTACT

Review
Interview
Blog
Post
Promo
NOTES
CONTACT EMAIL
RESPONSE
DATE Requested


* a note about giveaways: try where possible to offer your book as a giveaway. I got my highest sales on the days I offered my book as a free giveaway. I didn’t want to offer a gift card, remember I was broke by this time.

5. Be SOCIAL

As the blog tour began, I made a fancy banner announcing the tour for my webpage. I linked to each blog that hosted me.

On the day of each tour stop, I tweeted and posted each blog. And I visited each site to try and interact with any commenters and responded where appropriate.

6. Send THANK YOU NOTES

But the most important thing I did, was mind my manners. After each post I wrote a personalized thank you note to each blogger. I told them how they affected my sales rank that day. Each one invited me back!

7. The VERDICT

I had phenomenal success with my tour! I was on thirty blogs over the course of my launch week. As soon as those posts went live, my debut novel was launched into the Top 100 where its stayed for a week after my launch. I could see the effects in real time. When a tour stop went live, an hour or so later, I’d see sales. I didn’t see much of a blip on social media (ie, my newsletter or Facebook Likes). My Twitter follows did see some of an uptick, but mostly from the bloggers themselves as they tweeted about the post.

****
Thanks, Ines, for that awesome information! I know her method works, because she got me to post for her ;) 

I do have one additional suggestion: offer to give the blogger your post in HTML code. I had to do some formatting in order for her blog post to look good on my site (as will happen if you just copy/paste a post from an email), and it took up a bit of time, whereas I feel that the easier you make it for the blogger, the better! Also, add your links into your post whenever possible (I added Ines' Twitter link in).

Don't forget to check out her new book: 

Pumpkin: a Cindermama Story by Ines Johnson

Single mother Malika “Pumpkin” Tavares lost faith in fairytales after she fell for a toad. Town royalty Armand “Manny” Charmayne has been searching for his soulmate all his life, whom he’ll recognize at first sight by a golden aura, that only he can see, surrounding her person. Manny doesn’t see gold when he meets Pumpkin, but the more he gets to know her the more he considers defying fate, if only he can convince her to take a chance on love again.

Available on Amazon, B&N, Kobo

Connect with Ines!
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ineswrites

Twitter: https://twitter.com/ineswrites

Website: https://InesJohnson.wordpress.com

Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24927912-pumpkin

Sunday, February 22, 2015

3 Ways Reading Romance Can Benefit Your Life

I've always known reading romance and erotica was good for me. Now I have proof. Because science!

Thank you to writer Kimberly Turner for this guest post!


 3 Ways Reading Romance Can Benefit Your Life


Even before Fifty Shades of Grey was on the scene, women were avid readers of romance. According to the International Business Times, some 75 million people (90 percent of them women) in the United States read at least one romance novel in 2008, though most are long-time dedicated readers of the genre. And with the rising popularity of all things kink, being more open about your preference in literature is not only no longer taboo, it’s encouraged. This is made evident by Adam and Eve, who explain that erotic novels offer a slew of sex positive possibilities. Reading your favorite scenes from a steamy romance aloud to your partner is sure to get you both in the mood, benefiting your libido and overall sex life. But that’s not all romance novels have to offer. 

Here are 3 ways erotica can give your life a boost outside of the bedroom:




Improve Memory and Brain Function

It’s fairly well-known that reading offers plenty of intellectual perks. Cracking open a book regularly can enhance analytical thinking skills, improve your memory, and even help prevent Alzheimer’s disease, according to ABC News. But it may come as a surprise that these benefits are not only gained by reading the classics; cognitive functions can get a boost from erotic romance, too. Take into consideration other areas the romance genre stimulates in addition to your brain, and reading suddenly becomes a total body experience. 

Improve Self-Confidence

Gone are the days of the damsel in distress. The majority of modern-day romance heroines are strong, sassy, and not afraid to express what they want, and then go out and get it. As Today notes, more contemporary romance novels are featuring fearless female leads in many forms. Their covers are showcasing that by having a woman alone on the cover or portraying her dominating a man. Not only does this role-reversal make for more dynamic plotlines, not to mention hotter sex scenes, it also helps boost the self-esteem of readers of the genre. 

Through portrayals of women that are more grounded in the reality of today’s world, readers can better relate to the heroine in the novel, placing themselves in her shoes. By vicariously experiencing a scenario though the female characters in the book, such as a breakup or marital issues, romance readers are able to successfully work through similar situations in their own lives. They can provide a new perspective and additional insight into what they really want. 

Improve Your Relationship

Although there’s no doubt your sex life will benefit from reading erotic romance, other areas of your relationship are likely to reap the rewards, too. The Guardian reported that researchers from the University of Buffalo found reading fiction can help you better empathize with others, including your honey. With increased empathy, you’ll be able to see your partner’s side of things, which can come in handy when faced with a disagreement or major life decision.

Romance novels are full of emotional moments, and regular exposure to heartfelt expressions, even when it’s between two characters in a book, can aid in recognition of that same affection in the real world. By being more receptive to this kind of emotional vulnerability, you’ll be more likely to communicate with your partner, not only in regards to sexual fantasies and desires, but about everyday occurrences. This will then strengthen your bond and overall connection, both in and out of the bedroom.